Saturday, December 05, 2009


Yesterday I was browsing through health websites when I found myself on the Canadian Johnson and Johnson web page. They were asking a question which I found intriguing so I answered it. Following is the question and my response:

How do you keep from blowing your top and damaging relationships?

I believe through daily spiritual rhythms and practices I have set the foundation and safe guard towards not blowing my top and leaving behind me damaged relationships.

The first step, is to take time to be alone with God, asking him to guide and direct me through out the day. My love relationship with him is vital in maintaining my cool in the heat of conflict. Knowing how much he loves me makes a difference in how I respond to others.

Second, is to let the Bible (his word), change my heart by not demanding my own way, but taking time to listen well, hold my tongue, and stop anger immediately through praying breathe prayers. Not blowing my top and keeping control of my tongue, is a step towards learning to love others well.

Our words and choice of actions can bring life to a relationship or they can totally end all forms of communication. It is my daily choice to choose life not death concerning the relationships I have in my life. Growing in grace is a life long journey.

How do you keep from blowing your top and damaging relationships?

Over the last several weeks my husband and I have been extremely ill, yes we did have H1N1 and my husband had Salmonella poisoning. I apologize for not posting or letting anyone know. Energy has been a possession I hoarded, while my strength slowly has returned.

Please pray I will get caught up with writing my papers that are all due at the end of this month. I have a knack of falling behind! My youngest son will be home on December 16th, he has been in Quebec since September. It will be wonderful to have him home.

Pax Robin

Be sure to check out the inspirational writings at Spiritual Sundays. Thanks to Ginger and Charlotte for hosting this site and encouraging us today to seek the Lord.


Cherie said...

I do hope that you are feeling better soon. I know how that feels to just get so run down. Thank you for reminding me that the only way to make it through is with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Andrea said...

Praying for you as you finish your papers and praying your health will be fully restored.
Blessings, hugs, and prayers,

PS: you have an award on arise 2 write

Lisa said...

Glad to hear you are feeling better! I am praying that the Lord allows you to redeem the time. Supernatural catch up for you Robin!

Robin said...

Thank you Ladies for your encouraging words and prayers. I do need a divine intervention to finish well. I have one more class then I am taking a year off! I do need to push into this and finish. My stomach is still not right.

Debbie said...

I am sorry to hear that your husband and you have been sick for soo long. I will pray that you manage to get done what you need to do. What you said about damaging relationships is soo true. The only way to really control out anger, or our tongues etc., is through the power of the Holy Spirit. Have a blessed, productive, and healthy week, Debbie

RCUBEs said...

So many nasty, resistant viruses. But there is nothing that is hard for the Lord to be healed! Praying for your continued healing and for your husband as well.
Just like how vital it is to remain trusting in Him so we can become slow to anger, so it is when we approach His throne! God bless you always and keep you.

Cathy said...

Oh, Dear, I'm sorry you and your husband have been so sick. Praying God will give you energy to get everything done ~ Thank you for listening to my Christmas song and for your sweet comment.

Denise said...

Praying for you.

Peter Stone said...

Sorry to hear you've been sick.
Love your article, I think you covered everything I would have mentioned. I too notice that when I do not spend enough time with God, I start getting a lot more impatient. And I'm a big fan of Proverbs 15:1 'A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.'

Clif said...

Excellent post. This should prove helpful to many of us. I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband have been ill. I am glad you are feeling better.

daylily777 said...

This is a wonderful post . The Bible talks a lot about controlling our tongue & the damage it can do. We must rely on Jesus & submit ourselves to Him Let the Holy Spirit control our speech .I am praying for you & your husband .
Merry christmas !

Ginger said...

I pray for the Lord to be with me daily with this, because of the people I work with. I'm so sorry that you and your husband have been so ill. I will pray for the both of you.
God Bles,

Mary said...

Robin, I'm sorry to hear that you and hubby have been ill..thank God that you are recovering and did not have more severe effects to the flu...I'm sure it was bad enough, but when hearing of deaths occuring, I'm thankful that you are on the mend.

Wonderful post...I have practiced these steps for years, and through knowledge and willingness to allow time for my heart to change has kept my relationships strong and lasting. It is a matter of choice!

Take care, get better, and God bless you!


Charlotte said...

I'm so sorry you and your husband have been so sick. I'm glad you're feeling better. I thought this post was very insightful. Blowing your top and damaging relationships is an interesting topic. I think you gave the perfect solution to a very real problem. I know you're looking forward to having your son home. I have no doubt you will get your papers done. Thank you for sharing with us.

A Gracious Home said...

I think all of what you say is true. I sometimes just leave the room and pray and give my problem to God and let Him take care of it. He will. Doylene

Alleluiabelle said...

My Dear Friend,

It's been a long time...I love you. My prayers will be said for you and your husband's complete healing from the flu. I am so sorry to hear that you both have been through that physical malady. My prayers will also be said for you to diligently get the papers that you need to get done hopefully earlier than you anticipated.

My love to you and your family and may this Christmas season be one that fills your hearts with more joy than you can possibly imagine all because of Him.

Love you my friend,

Renee said...

Beautiful post. Hope and pray you and your husband are soon back to complete health.
God bless

cindyhan111 said...

so sorry to hear of your recent illness.... take care and take spiritual care as well! peace~

Deborah Ann said...

I sure needed this. Way too many damaged relationships. HElp me Jesus!

sojourner said...

these thoughts seem to weave in with what the Lord has been saying to me through my journalling on song of songs at secrete whispers - i've been thinking of you and your studies during these days of end of semester - you will get through and it will soon be over - hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving in spite of the illness :0)